Underneath my yellow skin

Author Archives: Minna Hong

Angry at the world, part two

Let’s talk more about unbridled rage and what I plan on doing about it. Nothing. The end. Not really, of course. In yesterday’s post, I talked about how angry I am almost all the time right now. I like to use the Hulk’s infamous line, “That’s my secret, Cap. I’m always angry” with a wry… Continue Reading

Owning the bitterness in my heart

I want to talk about how burned out I feel right now. Emotionally, I mean. I talked in yesterday’s post about how I hated my fellow countrypeople, and I’m not even trying to tamp it down. In the past, I would try to talk myself out of it or give reasons why–no, not the latter.… Continue Reading

Me and double empathy, part three

I have more to say about bias, the double empathy problem, and whatever else happens to be on my mind. In yesterday’s post, I talked about how I have no heart because there is so much hatred in this country right now. In the Discord I’m in, we were arguing about politics. Well, not politics… Continue Reading

Let’s talk more about the double empathy problem, part two

DEI training is worse than useless if it’s not done well. In yesterday’s post, I talked about how I was unwillingly dragged into being a DEI trainer when I was a ‘mere’ admin assistant for a DEI department (or the equivalent thereof before DEI was officially a thing). I was supposed to just deal with… Continue Reading

Last post about safer spaces, part eight

Let’s talk more about safer spaces and society’s expectation for ‘normal’ behavior in general. In yesterday’s post, I wrote about masking, social norms, and how I felt forced to do so for so many reasons. One, growing up in tthe seventies, there wasn’t even lip service to diversity. It was fit in or die, and… Continue Reading

Safer spaces and thee, part seven

Let’s talk more about safer spaces. In yesterday’s post, I talked about reasons why it’s necessary to clearly spell out acceptable behavior in a group situation. I also mused about how people protested about it and about enthusiastic consent because….? Well, with the latter, they said it would take the spontaneity out of sex (ummmmmmm),… Continue Reading

A true safe space, part five

I have more to say about safe spaces. In part four of this series,  I was talking about how creepers are endlessly excused as just being socially awkward–if they are a white cishetguy. That’s not what I want to talk about today, though. I want to focus more on what a safe space would actually… Continue Reading