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The enshittification of the internet, part three

Let’s talk more about the good and the bad of the internet. I spend most of my time online, so obviously, I’m a big fan. But I’ve noticed how the quality of the writing has gone down the toilet. I’m not talking about the AI (though that does, indeed, suck. I’m not here to talk about it, though), which doesn’t help.

(Deep sigh. So many big thoughts about AI that I do not want to share right now.)

Side note: Yes, again. Oh, here’s yesterday’s post in which I railed about all the shitty clickbait that is just getting shittier. And how websites are actively making themselves worse in order to appease their shareholders at the expense of their customers.

When I actually give in and check out one of those, “So-and-so DESTROYED the other so-and-so”, I always hate myself after. I have to be strict with myself because it’s so bad. Even on news sites, there is a tendency to run towards hyperbolic. As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I immediately knock off fifty percent of the energy whenever I read a piece. So if something is disastrous, then it’s mildly bad.

I also mentioned that I already have an issue with showing my emotions–feeling them, too. Which is a sign of my neurodivergence. I thought I was just wrong, weird, or broken, but it’s just how I’m made. It’s also my parents making it exceedingly clear that emotions were for them and not fro me. Any time I showed the least bit of negative emotions, I was  reprimanded, chided, and criticized. Sometimes, even shouted at.

I got exceptionally good at swallowing my rage, er, emotions. And in not showing pain. In fact, when I started Taiji, that’s something I had to address. My teacher was teaching ushow to do joint lock techniques, called chin na techniques. Basically, you jab or press pressure points to cause the other person immense pain that disappears the second you let up.

Before I get to thaat, there’s another kind of content creation that just drives me up the wall. I want to mention it because I keep meaning to talk about it, then promptly forgetting. Since I just saw something that reminded me of it (and set me off), I decided to do it now. This is the “I can’t believe _______ (people of a certain country) do _______ (something completely normal)!” and it’s cousin, “I finally understand why ______ (people of a certain country) do this weird thing! (Which is not in the least weird.)”

Me: “Oh, you can’t understand WHY PEOPLE IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY MIGHT DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY THAN YOU DO?!”

It’s so fucking annoying. I don’t know about the actual content because I don’t click on those vids (though I have seen one or two of them). “American English is different than British English!” Well, duh. The one that really irks me is when British people make fun of/are incredulous about how we do dates in America. By that, I mean the way we write the date, not how we go about dating.


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Internet memes/slang I like (and/or dislike)

I am an internet person. I spend a lot of time online. I know some of the slang by osmosis (and some of the memes, though I usually seem to be a few years behind). There are several memes and slang that I really like. I want to talk about them just because I can.

I was reading an Ask A Manager post about the diet police in the office (which, ugh, just no), and someone used my one of my favorite internet memes. Someone was explaining how someone in their office would get really into abasing herself for being fat and agonizing over eating a cooke or whatever (which is sadly common for women in a society that is horrid to fat women), and someone else commeted, “You don’t have to participate, Cathy.”

This is one of my favorite internet memes. The snarky side comment with a random name attached to it at the end. I don’t know why, but this absolutely sends me. Especially as the name is usually such a bland and boring one. The blander, the better. I think because it makes it universal.

Another one is saying “I love that for you” after someone makes any kind of comment. I like this one because it covers a wide array of situations. It’s very much like the Southern ‘bless your heart’ in that it can be both sincere and scathing. If someone is celebrating something like a new job or pregnant, then it’s said in sincerity. “Oh, what a great opportunity/news, and I love that for you!” This is used for friends, mostly.

I will admit, I like the other version better because it suits my personality. It’s when someone shows their entire ass, and you say it to express your disapproval. So, let’s say someone goes off on, say queer people and rant about how they (the queers) are all going to hell. And they didn’t know I was queer as they were going on and on about it. At the end, if I wanted to use this phrase, it would be in the context of, “It looks like you’re finally showing your true self. And I love that for you.” In a tone that says I want nothing more to do with them.

Another is when someone makes a decision that is clearly a self-destructive one. Then, you can say, “Well, you flame-bombed that bridge to hell. And I love that for you.” It’s hard to describe in words, exactly, but it’s a way of saying, “That was a shitty decision, but you do you.”

Which, by the way, is another of my favorite internet slangs. “You do you.” I’m not sure why, but it just conveys such a paradox of judgment and nonjudgment. On the one hand, you’re telling someone to do whatever you want. But the tone for this one is, “I wouldn’t advise it, but I won’t try to stop you from doing it, either.” It’s so pass-ag!


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