Yesterday, I was ranting about ‘reverse _____ism’ and how much I loathe that argument. It’s lazy, derailing, and just boring. Today, at Ask A Manage,r there is a question about high-end gifts to team members to reward them for a job well done. It included money, a trip, and an individual gift (that’s the high-end… Continue Reading
Few things irk me more on a social justice level than, “If you reverse the situation, then–” I’m not saying it’s the most important, but it’s fingernails on the chalkboard annoying to me. To clarify, when someone snidely says, “Imagine if a guy did that to a woman! He would get so much shit for… Continue Reading
Yesterday, I was writing about culture and how those who are outside it. Today at Ask A Manager, Alison reran a question about what topics you should not talk about at work. She gave a pretty standard response, and commenters in the commentariat ran with it. The very first commenter said something about avoiding G.R.A.P.E.S.… Continue Reading
I go through my life being a weirdo and pretty much ignoring all the evidence that I am a weirdo because I know I’m a weirdo and I don’t really care. Most of the time. Plus, that’s too many uses of the word ‘weirdo’ in one sentence. But I’m making a point. The point being… Continue Reading
I’m still thinking about anarchy per my convo with Ian yesterday. In this case, though, I’m thinking about it in terms of business norms and how they’re used to keep people in line. I was reading an Ask A Manager post from 2016. It was from a manager who wanted to tell her young report… Continue Reading
I had started a different post, but Ian just said something to me that completely blew my mind. We were talking about societal powers and how we both called ourselves socialists. Comfortably. I would not even blink twice if someone callde me that. I mentioned that I was a libertarian with a small L because… Continue Reading
I’ve been talking about rules and why I don’t give a shit about them. When I was a kid, I was indoctrinated as to how things should be. My father, a narcissist with no sense of norms, had a highly-idiosyncratic idea of how people should act. In general, it was mostly that he should always… Continue Reading
For most of my life, I have been resigned to being ignored. I live in the in-between because I am not one of the two dominant groups in any category. I am Asian–not black or white. I am bi–not gay or straight. More recently, I am areligious–not a believer or an atheist. And, sigh, finally,… Continue Reading
So, I nattered on and on about this and that in yesterday’s post. My point is, though, that being an ally is more than waving a rainbow flag during Pride weekend. It’s much more than saying, “I like Chinese food. It’s so delicious.” It’s not about showing that you are a good person because you’re… Continue Reading
I have observed a strange phenomenon that isn’t new exactly, but it’s more pronounced with social media. This is not a post about social media in general, though I will note that my use has drastically declined. I don’t look at Facebook at all, and I check in with Twitter maybe once a week for… Continue Reading