A note: My internet is being really shitty this week. Every day, it blinks in and out in clusters for about an hour. Then it’s fine for several hours. Then it does it again for another hour or so. This happens two or three times a day. One day, instead of that, there was an… Continue Reading
More dissecting gender here. Yesterday’s post ended abruptly with me wondering about why men and women couldn’t be friends or could only be friends with strict parameters. All the caveats and warnings about it made me depressed. I have never gave a shit about any of that. Then again, I’m queer. Even though I don’t… Continue Reading
I wrote a post yesterday about gender rending. I want to continue on with that today. The reason I want to talk about it is because I kind of have the feeling this is like the kids things. What I mean is that I don’t have kids, I didn’t want kids, and I have never… Continue Reading
Thinking about gender again. I’ve heard from many people that gender is important to them. That they feel their gender in their bones. I know many trans people who have felt misaligned with their bodies, and I find all this fascinating. I don’t feel gender. Like, I know I’m not a dude. In fact, I… Continue Reading
More on that gender train. All aboooooard! Read yesterday’s post for more context. Here’s the thing. In my ideal world, gender would be as important as the person wanted it to be. In other words, if someone deeply feels their gender, then that would be respected. If someone didn’t care about gender, that would be… Continue Reading
Back to gender once again! Yesterday, I was complaining about Whataboutalism and how baked into our society it is. Oh, but maybe it’s not sexism. But maybe it is??? Today, I’m going for a different angle. The angle I call–what is gender anyway? It’s a personal angle, though there are other people who feel the… Continue Reading
Yesterday, I was ranting about ‘reverse _____ism’ and how much I loathe that argument. It’s lazy, derailing, and just boring. Today, at Ask A Manage,r there is a question about high-end gifts to team members to reward them for a job well done. It included money, a trip, and an individual gift (that’s the high-end… Continue Reading
Few things irk me more on a social justice level than, “If you reverse the situation, then–” I’m not saying it’s the most important, but it’s fingernails on the chalkboard annoying to me. To clarify, when someone snidely says, “Imagine if a guy did that to a woman! He would get so much shit for… Continue Reading
More musings about gender. Yesterday, I was talking about my confusions as to the concept. And, how I got along better with guys when I was in my teens and twenties than I did with women. I mentioned how it was so much a cool girl thing. “I’m not like the other girls.” I would… Continue Reading
It is not a secret that in fashion, personal care, and hygiene, women pay mor ethan men do. I’m intentionally using the binary because that’s what most products are marketed at and as–men and women. A woman’s t-shirt will cost more than the male version because, ostensibly, it takes more tailoring. Uh huh. You would… Continue Reading