So. I have written many times about my confusion over my gender identity. It’s never been that I feel like a man, though I have wished to be male many times in my childhood. It wasn’t because I felt like a boy, but because I hated being a girl so much. It was so limiting… Continue Reading
One of the major tenets of Taiji (if not the major one) is to be as lazy as possible in your movements. My teacher has to emphasize this with Americans because our society is very much no pain, no gain–give it 110% (which drives me crazy when people say that because it is literally impossible.… Continue Reading
Love stinks. At least, that was my motto until roughly a year ago. On and off. When I was a teenager before I got my first date, I desperately wanted it. It was the only thing on my mind and I cringed at how desperate I was. Unrequited crushes that never hid and other assorted… Continue Reading
I hate FromSoft fanbois. Not the community in general, mind you, but the assholes who have a very rigid idea of what should and shouldn’t be. I’ve talked before about gatekeeping and how much I loathed it. I’m of the mindset that play the game as you want to play it. Enjoy it how you… Continue Reading
One of the way allies are encouraged to be supportive of trans/nonbinary people is by putting their pronouns in their email sigs. I’ve seen this subject come up from time to time on Ask a Manager. Almost every time, nonbinary folk and trans folk point out that it’s not helpful to people who aren’t out… Continue Reading
If there’s something that drives me absolutely batty as a Dark Souls fan, it’s all the hardcore fans who bleat about what is or isn’t cheating in the game. I’ve written about this before, but I’m doubly annoyed as we make our way to the release of Elden Ring. Here are just some of the… Continue Reading
Many moons ago, my brother and I had a discussion about how we Google. Hey, we talk about a lot of things that are on our minds, not necessarily anything deep and insightful. We are very different people, which means we Google in completely opposite ways. Or at least did at the time of this… Continue Reading
Five months after the worst and wildest night of my life, I’m sitting on my couch, contemplating my navel–and the rest of my life. One thing I’m thinking about is dating. About a dozen years ago, I gave up on dating because I had just gotten out of a horrible relationship that I had rushed… Continue Reading
I was reading my stories (advice columns) and one question came up about going to a Finnish spa (in Finland) with your coworkers (if you’re American). One thing that struck me was that it was divided by gender. We can see the problems with that, yes? Especially now that we are more aware of the… Continue Reading
I’ve officially surpassed the threshold of how much Taiji weaponry I do a day–meaning I do more now than I did before going into the hospital. My biceps are bulging in a very pleasing way (I’ve always found it easy to build muscle) and I’m STRONK. I love my biceps. I told you that I’m… Continue Reading