Alternate title: I need to learn more basic stuff, but that’s not as catchy. I have teeth problems that I need to deal with. I’m not happy about it, but at least I know what needs to be done. An implant and three crowns. Ouch, my wallet! Then, my car started acting up. It wouldn’t… Continue Reading
One thing I’ve accepted about myself is that I discover more about myself by discarding things I don’t like rather than gravitating towards things I like. In some cases, it’s just baked into my identity, such as being Asian rather than black or white. It goes even further in that I am Taiwanese, not Chinese.… Continue Reading
More talking about boobs. I just watched a video by Rachel Bloom called Heavy Boobs. It’s very catchy and I agree with the sentiment…. but she says she’s Double D. That’s not heavy. That’s what I said I was when I stopped buying bras, but I knew I was MUCH bigger than that. Much. Like,… Continue Reading
Boobs. I like boobs. Who doesn’t like boobs? Most people like boobs. I have a fake-hubby who is gay who likes boobs. In the words of the inimitable Tim Minchin: Fuck, I love boobs, though! I just really love them. Fuck, I love boobs, though. I just want to rub them! He just really loves… Continue Reading
People talk about how difficult it is to adjust to the new pronouns of someone they’ve known and love for quite some time. For some reason, I do not have this problem. When gender identity started becoming more talked about as a social issue, I struggled with ‘they’ in the singular. When I changed my… Continue Reading
I’m used to being ignored. It’s a fact of life that people tend to think in the binary. It’s one reason it’s been so difficult to broaden the public consciousness on gender diversity. It’s also a fact that people are territorial. Us and them is pretty much innate (we can argue whether it’s more nature… Continue Reading
One thing I appreciate about Ask A Manager is that she often has articles from a diverse panel of people. Today, she has a post about how to include trans and gender-diverse people in the workplace, which is relevant to my interests. I really liked Kalani Kaahi Adolpho and Stephen G. Krueger for their thorough… Continue Reading
My brother has been asking me for dating advice and insight to the women he is dating. I find this hilarious because I am awful at dating. I am really good at reading people and knowing why they do things, but I can’t apply it to my own life. I haven’t dated in a decade… Continue Reading
In yesterday’s post, I wrote about two letters at Ask A Manager that were about internalized misogyny (more or less). I was midway through dissecting the second, so let’s continue with that. The LW was saying that she didn’t regret the decision she made not to be close to her coworkers/reports, but then whining about… Continue Reading
Today, there are 2 letters at Ask A Manager that relate to gender-specific assumptions/statements. The first is just a hot mess of internalized misogyny and doesn’t really need much dissection (though she got a ton of it from the commentariat–and I will probably add to it myself. Alison had an excellent and thorough response to… Continue Reading