For most of my life, I have been resigned to being ignored. I live in the in-between because I am not one of the two dominant groups in any category. I am Asian–not black or white. I am bi–not gay or straight. More recently, I am areligious–not a believer or an atheist. And, sigh, finally,… Continue Reading
So, I nattered on and on about this and that in yesterday’s post. My point is, though, that being an ally is more than waving a rainbow flag during Pride weekend. It’s much more than saying, “I like Chinese food. It’s so delicious.” It’s not about showing that you are a good person because you’re… Continue Reading
I have observed a strange phenomenon that isn’t new exactly, but it’s more pronounced with social media. This is not a post about social media in general, though I will note that my use has drastically declined. I don’t look at Facebook at all, and I check in with Twitter maybe once a week for… Continue Reading
So. There is an open world Potter game. As you can imagine, this has caused a lot of strong emotions because for many people, JKR is the absolute worst. I will hasten to add that I’m in that category. To others, people who are against JKR are the worst. They can go jump in a… Continue Reading
I’m going to brag for a minute. This isn’t even a humble-brag–it’s just a brag. I have a high EQ (Emotional Quotient/emotional intelligence) and have for my whole life. I can read people in a way that most people can’t. I’m not psychic–I’m just extremely adept at picking up cues. It’s both nature (I was… Continue Reading
I love the internet in general. I spend a lot of time on it, and I find so much value in it. THat being said, there are downsides as there are to everything. One thing is how it’s easy for someone’s opinions to harden because of the echo chambers on line. And things that started… Continue Reading
Boobs. I like boobs. Who doesn’t like boobs? Most people like boobs. I have a fake-hubby who is gay who likes boobs. In the words of the inimitable Tim Minchin: Fuck, I love boobs, though! I just really love them. Fuck, I love boobs, though. I just want to rub them! He just really loves… Continue Reading
I’m a freak. I know that. I’ve known it since I was in my twenties. I just didn’t realize to what extent until, well, now. And I’m still realizing it. I wish I had known the extent when I was younger because then maybe i wouldn’t have wasted so many years feeling like there was… Continue Reading
One phrase that is guaranteed to send me into an instant rage is “But if you reverse the _____ (genders, sexual orientations, races, etc.), then people would be up in arms about it!” I hate it with the intensity of a thousand suns. Why? Because it strips all context from a situation. “A woman can… Continue Reading
I was reading up on a controversy concerning The Korean Englishman (Josh from Jolly) in October of 2020. This was during the pandemic and he planned a birthday party for his wife in Seoul (she’s Korean) and videotaped it. The Korean police did not take kindly to it and arrested them. There were other issues… Continue Reading